Parents are important allies for you. They are resource people and know their children best. Communicating with them and establishing a relationship of trust are important assets. However, it is not always easy to benefit from these assets. The more I get to know you, the more I notice how difficult you find it is to approach parents. I understand… Every time I have to approach parents to discuss my observations of their children, I get nervous. How will they react? How will they perceive what I have to tell them?
When everything is going well with a child, it’s nice to talk to the parents. It’s always good to point out the good things. However, when a difficulty arises for whatever reason, everything is different. There is no miracle recipe, we won’t hide anything, but there are certain “rules” that you can apply to make things go well or at least to put the odds on your side. So, without further ado, let’s dive into this blog and learn some of the things you need to know when communicating with your parents.
1. Always give the parents the right time
Giving parents the straight goods remains the core of good communication. Hiding from them what is going on with their child on a daily basis is not helpful. I believe it is better to present a problem in small doses than to explode one day and tell the parents everything at once. Quietly, parents need to be brought up to speed so that they have a realistic picture of their child’s strengths and challenges.
2. Build a relationship with parents from the start
Take the time to get to know the parents, to talk to them about everything before things start to go wrong. If you feel that you have already established a relationship with the parents, it will be even easier to approach them. Plus, the parents will be doubly open to you, your expertise, and your solutions.
3. Show them that you love their child
It is essential to understand that for parents, their child is the most critical person in their eyes. Therefore, it is important that they feel that you love their child as much as they do. If parents feel that their child is a “problem” for you, they will close up and not want to cooperate. Don’t hesitate to show them all the love you have for their child, and you will see that the parents will be much more open to your comments.
4. Beware of judgmentsÂ
Judgments of any kind can destroy a relationship. Whether the relationship is professional or friendly, judgments have no place. When discussing with parents, use observable and measurable facts. Observed behaviors without interpretation are preferred when approaching parents.
5. Provide constructive feedback
Working together with parents will have a double effect: helping the child in difficulties and maintaining a harmonious relationship with the parents. When discussing a problem with parents, try to consider some solutions. Where there are difficulties, there are certain solutions. This will greatly facilitate positive exchanges. Let the parents suggest some tips too.
Final thoughts
It is your duty to discuss what is wrong with the parents regarding development and behavior. This is part of your job. You are not responsible for how the parents react or what decisions they make. One thing is certain; you should not bury your head in the sand and hide the child’s true situation.
If you have approached the parents to discuss your concerns, you have done your job as an educator. All credit to you… Sound off in the comments section below, and tell us what you want to read next and if you want to read more about talking to your parents.
